Emese Taylor

Sex & Relationship Therapist

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Finding your perfect partner - Part 1.

We’re all very familiar with the dream – the idealised version of romance is a constant fixture in the media and whether it’s the music we listen to, the films we watch or the television we enjoy, romance is everywhere. Sadly though, that dream is just that: a dream. And whilst many are fortunate to find love through the benevolence of the universe, for most of us, these things are not so simple!

As our lives become increasingly stressful, with so many tasks vying for our attention, it becomes more and more of a challenge to set aside time to find our own happiness. Your inbox might be in order; your emails replied to; diary alerts set up, and your daily tick-box of activities accounted and planned for, but, with all this planning, why do so few of us put such little effort into finding our future partner?

You might have some vague notions of who you would like to meet and a few fleeting hopes for how and when that might come about, but what you really need is the determination and the strength to make this happen. To find the person of your dreams and allow yourself the happiness you deserve. Let’s take a moment to look at just a few positive changes you can make to your lifestyle right now to bring about the change you desire to reach.

Online Dating

There has been a huge surge of interest in online dating in recent years. In fact, since 2013, the number of adults using online dating websites and apps has more than doubled, with over 75% of those questioned seeing no stigma related to meeting new people online. With two-thirds of people reporting that online dating activity is translating into actual dates in the real world, there has never been a better time to get involved and create your own romantic future or revitalise an old profile.

As we have discussed, luck and chance are wonderful concepts for fiction, but for us, we need to be a little more proactive in our decision making. Before placing an advert on a dating site or going back to revise your current profile, really think about what it is that you’re looking for in a partner. A positive step to take, is to evaluate where you are currently in life and what things, you believe, could bring you further happiness. If your idea of a perfect night is an intimate evening, fine wine and a movie, then there is little point in attracting a party animal who wants to be painting the town red until the early hours.

Evaluate your goals for the future, where you would like to be our see yourself in two years time and what sort of partner would be conducive to that. If you are planning to travel the world then someone who would rather have their nose buried in a book might not be the best person for you, so be clear to have your desires come across concisely in your online dating profile.

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