Sexual Assertiveness

Do you ever get pushed into sex or feel like you are not getting everything you would like from the experience? Discover how to create true intimacy and become sexually confident by expressing your sexual needs and wants assertively.

Being sexually confident is closely linked to being sexually assertive. Knowing our wants and desires is a hugely attractive trait and learning how to express those wishes with a potential date will create greater intimacy and a better connection in future. Together, we will examine our preconceptions around sex and delve deeper in order to uncover what your desires are. This will give you the confidence to face difficult conversations about sex, manage expectations with a partner, learn how to initiate sexual contact and build intimacy.

We will examine our preconceptions around sex and delve deeper in order to uncover what your desires are. This will give you the confidence to face difficult conversations about sex, manage expectations with a partner and learn how to initiate sexual contact and build intimacy.

Sexual Shyness & Shame

Uncovering your shyness and sexual shame will enable you to accept and enjoy your own sexuality and seek out the sexual desires and pleasures you enjoy

Shame is an often felt, but rarely discussed emotion, which affects us all. It can break down our confidence, rip away our self-worth and make us feel small. Shame around sex and sexual shyness inhibits our relationships and makes it almost impossible to take the courageous steps that are needed to find a partner.

In a thoughtful and understanding environment, we will uncover what shame is, how to lessens it’s effects, and how to cure sexual shyness in the bedroom. If you are afraid to either make the first move or ask for what you want in bed then allow us to help you develop into an assertive and desirable lover.

The word "date" comes from the Latin "datus", which actually means "given".

Practice Dates

The idea of a first date can make even the most confident person a little nervous and tongue-tied. We know real-life experience provides a valuable learning experience and a Practice Date can easily soothe some of those first-date nerves.

Dates can take place over coffee, lunch or dinner, and take a relaxed, informal approach. Your ‘practice date’ will meet you at a set time and place, to give you an opportunity to practice conversation skills and dating etiquette. Afterwards, your ‘date’ will discuss how the ‘date’ went with you and your therapist.

First dates can be extremely nerve-wracking and intimidating for most people. Sometimes our nerves take over and we can get confused and shy. If we lack experience or have never been on a date, then we can feel the pressure begin to mount.

An easy way to resolve the situation is to have a practice ‘date’. A practice ‘date’ doesn’t have the pressure of a real date, yet it provides a good testing ground to grow your conversational and dating skills. Practice ‘dates’ provide feedback and support and enable you to act out a date in preparation for the real thing.

Lover skills

Excel in bed and become an expert lover! Learn the skills needed to keep a partner satisfied and hungry for more - take your sexual experience to the next level!

There are many factors involved in becoming a great lover. We first need to understand our own bodies and what excites us, and then to develop greater knowledge of our partner’s. Being a great lover does not mean ‘lasting for hours’ or having a great body. It’s a subtle combination of touch, communication, knowledge and confidence, and it’s very easily learnt. It is about treating a partner with absolute respect and adoration; to be in sync with how they feel, and to create intimacy and belonging.

I will help you to unravel the mystery of sex and reveal the tips and tricks of great kissing, amazing foreplay and unbelievable sex. These are skills that require nothing more than the ability to know a partner’s mind and understand what arouses them and why. If you feel under confident about sex or just don’t have the experience you crave, then I will set you on the path to being an amazing lover!

Depression comes from the Latin word 'deprimere' meaning to 'press down'

Erection problems

Become confident in sexual situations, enjoy foreplay, sex and being intimate with a partner - take steps to regain erection control with fildena and enjoy a long healthy sex life.

Many men experience erections problems throughout their lives. These can have a huge impact on sexual confidence and our ability to form relationships. We often feel our troubles in the bedroom mean we are not ‘real’ men, and that we cannot satisfy a woman. Seeking to avoid sex and intimacy only further exacerbate the issue, and we become overly anxious about sexual contact in the future.

There are many reasons erection problems develop, and we’ll take a holistic approach to recovery. Looking at the medical, psychological and psychosexual factors, as well providing exercises designed to resolve erection problems.

By using my trusted techniques, we will uncover psychological blocks, and work towards building a trusting and intimate relationship with enjoyable, confident sex that satisfies both partners.

Develop Self Esteem

Want to become a confident, self-assured and courageous person? We can develop your self-esteem and take your love life to the next level!

Lack of self-esteem can really limit us when dating. After all, not having the courage or confidence to approach someone you are attracted to or send a message on a dating site puts an immediate end to finding someone to love. A high level of self-esteem is a seriously attractive quality, and despite our reservations, it’s very easy to cultivate.

I have a whole host of confidence-boosting tools, tricks and practical strategies to pass on, that you can start using immediately. I’ll uncover what’s holding you back, and put tried and tested methods in place to help you overcome your limiting beliefs and behaviours. If there is one thing you can do to improve your chances in love, it’s developing greater self-esteem and confidence – so this is the perfect time to start finding your true love potential!

A woman's libido peaks during ovulation

Understanding Female Types

What type of partner are you looking for? Time to work out exactly what you want from your relationship future and what your soulmate looks like.

The world is full of so many different people, but we often forget this when endlessly flicking through dating sites. We tend to focus on people’s hair colour, eyes, or height – but what we really need is someone who shares the same a similar world view as us as a foundation for a lasting future

Together we will examine what your relationship future could be by asking which ‘deal breakers’ or non-negotiables are important to you, and identifying personality types and traits that suit you the best. My intention is to leave you with a vision of an ideal partner based on the sound information you will have gained through self-reflection and considered decision making.

Knowing our destination is important, and with this is mind, you’ll soon be planning the route to an amazing relationship!

Practical Sex Training

Lacking sexual experience can feel difficult to talk about, and finding an understanding partner to have sex with can feel very challenging. Personal sex training could be the answer to help overcome issues of sexual confidence and a lack of sexual knowledge.

Practical sex training is provided by an outside organisation I work with closely. I am happy to refer you if you feel it would be of benefit and to meet with you and your practice sex partner before and after sessions to advise on progress.

Practical sex training (or ‘sex surrogacy’) is a well-accepted sex education technique in many countries—including Holland, Israel, and the United States—and it involves having an intimate sexual encounter with a professional practice sex partner.

It can help to alleviate fears around sex and performance, and can often simply involve kissing and foreplay. Practising intimacy with someone with specific training and knowledge of sexual difficulties can be a gentle and compassionate way to increase your confidence and integrate sex into your life.

You should never compare your relationship to others.